This morning i had a conversation with a friend whose sister has been using one of the internet dating sites. She is 32, his 50 with two grand children and when her vacuum cleaner had problems, he bought her a new one. Who says romance sucks.
But it raises the question, how much is too much of an age gap? Five years,? Ten? Eighteen?
My friend Cassandra, she is on an internet dating site and being 37 she limits the age of potential matches to 33 to 45. Seems a sensible age range to me, bracketing her own age quite sensibly. On the same site there is a 24 girl looking for guys 25-50. To me that seems extreme and i wonder why. The picture is of an attractive girl and i wonder why she wants to go for someone potentially so much older. No doubt the older guys will have been rushing to contact that young lady …
So internet at large, whats your opinion? Whats too much of an age gap? Does it matter?
8 Comments Received
January 30th, 2006 @10:00 pm
I got a nice chuckle out of your first paragraph!
Age is always a sensitive issue, but look at our upbringing. From a young age we’re seggregated into same age environment and it stays with us throughout schooling and further education to a point. We then tend to socialise with people around our age, so when we see age gaps in couples, we think it’s outside the norm.
I know some girls who want an older man, a fatherly figure, someone to take charge and control. Others stick to their age group. I think it depends on the person; there is no right or wrong, as long as they mesh on the same level and want the same thing from life.
You seem a little surprised at what you call extreme. How about an older woman with a younger man? That is not often the norm, but if both are comfortable with each other, (even if we’re not,) who are we to judge their happiness…
Sorry, this comment is longer than your post!
January 30th, 2006 @11:30 pm
Everyone knows the sexual intent that lies behind a hoover, bj metaphor anyone? Romance so is dead!
Okay, I’m probably the wrong person to ask about this, because considering the significant age gap between Dan and I I’m slightly biased. I think love is love, no matter how old the people involved are, the only problem comes when one wants to do the whole bratty early 20s thing of getting drunk everyweekend and the other is wanting to settle down and start a family.
*looks shifty*
January 30th, 2006 @11:58 pm
You’re not going to catch me dating 50 yr olds and I am 32. I work with a couple, they look pretty unattractive and whilst i dont mind looks, i’d rather go out with an ugly 35 yr old who is going to be alive when we’re in our 60s together, than an ugly 50 yr old who will probably die in about 20 yrs time.
January 31st, 2006 @5:23 am
I obviously don’t think age is a big deal seeing as my last two ex’s were 17 and 18 years older than me. You can’t help who you like. But I wouldn’t go around suggesting to people that they should date someone that much older. The age difference often times causes a struggle to find common interests. And I’m now refusing to date anyone more than eight years older than me for that reason.
January 31st, 2006 @12:40 pm
The age gap shouldn’t prove a problem, as long as they both know where they stand with it all.
As for ChickyBabe’s comment, almost all of the couples I know are older women with younger guys… but there isn’t a significant difference… I think at most about 3 or 4 yrs difference.
January 31st, 2006 @8:58 pm
Thank you all for your comments - its been interesting to get other peoples views on it. I’m leaning towards thinking that maybe age doesn’t matter and that let love run its course. All in all an interesting exercise.
January 31st, 2006 @9:31 pm
That’s good to see, lord_rassilon. I know of one couple with a 17 year age gap and they’ve been together for 10 years. Rare, but whatever makes them happy.
And Greg, please remember it’s whatever you’re comfortable with.
October 28th, 2006 @6:19 pm
i am 20 and my fiance is 42 we get on so well you cant help who you fall for people can be very funny about it but that is up to them as long as your happy and comfortable who says you cant date sum1 twice your age age is only a length of existence
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