There is something that occurred to me the other day that made me a little bit depressed in a retrospective looking inside kind of way.
In a momentary combination of dating desperation some time ago i signed up for an online dating site and i got some advice doing the profile from my blogging friends to refine my profile. Almost every day i checked the site for potential ladies but in the end it slipped from my interest and while i still get the weekly updates, i don’t normally read them. But then last week i got a message that momentarily disconcerted me.
Someone has added YOU to their favourite member list
Now back in the days when i had just signed up this would have been a good thing and maybe even have saved me from the whole unfortuate speed dating incident last year. But now there is something different that puts a whole different complexation on things. I have forgotten how to small talk.
You know Small Talk. Its the thing that is critical when it comes to dating otherwise you just have that whole uncomfortable silence and no second date. I was never very good at small talk but given the chance to be trying out my small talk last week i realised something …
I have lost my ability to small talk.
I am not sure when it left me but its gone, vanished. I opened my mouth knowing i had to say something and nothing that was likely to overly impressive came out. Just some mindless dribble, whole sentances certainly but neither memorable nor impressive. But at least i’ve managed to change something …
i don’t get to the first date anymore.
So if you happen to be out and about and spy my small talking ability, could you send it back. I could do with some company.
Tags: dating, small talk, conversation, talking
3 Comments Received
July 21st, 2006 @10:30 am
This may sound strange, but there are times when the last thing I want to do is engage in small talk. I’d rather just enjoy the company or talk about something interesting. I know how you feel. Inane natter sometimes leaves me cold. And bored.
Oh, and I’ll go loking for yours…
July 21st, 2006 @10:31 am
Small talk is ok… have a bunch of questions ready that you can ask (work, movies, books, pets, travelling, favourite foods… ect) and then when they answer, make a comment on what they’ve said (”Yes, I like the Matrix too! Which bit was your favourite part?”) that sort of thing
I suck at small talk because I miss what the answers are so can’t ask about them, ARGH!
July 21st, 2006 @10:12 pm
Chicky, very true. Sometimes there is nothing worse than that Inane chatter. But yes if you see my small talk wandering around sydney send it home, i need it.
Nikki - yeah but then there is the whole after you get past that initial step. As for missing the answers, the guy just needs to find a place to take you to thats suited to your needs.
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